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So I understand that sometimes we need companionship, but I don’t like this topic because I feel like for years now we have been inundated with all these tips and tricks on how to bend over backwards for a man but we don’t have enough conversations about how these men can be better for us.
With that having been said, of all the qualities that a woman could have that’ll make any man in his right senses stay away from her, I guarantee you that this energy you give off when you go around asking “Why can’t I find a man?” “I need a man” is unattractive as (Pardon my French) fuck. To any man that is looking for a healthy relationship anyway, because, of course not all men are the same.
Now I’m not saying anything is wrong with wanting companionship or having family goals or wanting a deep connection with somebody, but when you make it about “a man” basically you sound like any warm body that can fill in the blanks will do; like you are desperate for validation, like you’re just a walking void praying and hoping that somebody comes and fills it.
Hypothetically speaking, if you’re a successful business owner and someone comes along saying “I really need to get some money, I need some money badly, I just want money, and I want to partner with you on a business venture,” how would you look at them? Probably the same way a man looks at a woman who talks about how she needs to find a man.
That’s if he’s not looking to leverage on her desperation because that’s the only type that finds that attractive. Let’s go back to the business reference- the only people that find it attractive when someone’s in desperate need for money are scammers and Ponzi schemers; and the same goes for relationships.
Ironically, the most attractive that you can be in dating and relationships is satisfied in your singleness. Now, contrary to popular belief it doesn’t mean that you don’t want a relationship or that you’re too independent or that you don’t need a man. It just means that a relationship doesn’t absolutely have to happen right here and right now and, as a matter of fact, if it’s not lining up to be the right relationship, you don’t care about it happening at all.
Don’t let all these chicks out here hiding their desperation behind some dick they settled for trick you out of your spot and make you think that the grass is greener on their side because they now have someone to make them look stupid whereas you don’t. No.
The most attractive thing that you can be is happy healthy and efficient all on your own and let it be a bonus that a man that wants a healthy relationship find that attractive because I guarantee you if you are those things, that’s exactly what’s going to happen.
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