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Today we’re talking about the Ch- Word.
Cheating has always been a big subject. Chances are you’ve been exposed to it somehow—either through someone you know or through personal experience. It doesn’t matter what you do or where you’re from: Cheating is a part of life.
The interesting thing is that it’s not always clear where the line is between harmless fun and cheating. Men, women, and people from different backgrounds all have their own perception of what cheating is. Everyone, of course, is entitled to their belief, but it is important to make sure you’re on the same page with your partner about what that means.
Moving on, it’s not about who’s on the other side of your partner, it’s about your partner. A hundred percent. I agree. But I also think that every cheat can be bucketed into six (6) categories – they don’t really get much different from each other. There are six people I feel like are the most – almost a hundred percent – likely to cheat on you, and if they haven’t already, they will in the future. Let me know if you agree.
THE SIX PEOPLE THAT ARE MOST LIKELY TO CHEAT IN RELATIONSHIPS
1: The Newly Rich
The first person that I think is the most likely to cheat is the guy that makes a come up during or from the relationship. Whether he was working on his career and then his woman came in and helped him get his shit together, and now he’s wearing better clothes, he’s well traveled and all. Or maybe just by being with that woman, because she’s so fine and out of his league, now he’s attracting a whole level of other women and temptations, and now he’s in situations he’s not used to being in.
You see, a lot of guys get into relationships and say, “you know what, I’m going to be faithful. I’m going to be committed,” but that’s not a battle they’re used to fighting. Now they have a whole other level of battles they have to fight and they’re not ready for that. So the first guy is a very very likely candidate for cheating.
2. Money Over Everything
The second one, because ladies you’re not innocent, is the girl that’s all about getting money. As a matter of fact, her Twitter bio says “Before you dm, ask yourself, do you have money” Everything is about the cheque, everything is about a coin.
I’m not talking about career driven women who work their asses off for everything they have. I’m not talking about them. I’m talking about the women that there’s no line they’re not willing to cross if there’s money on the other side of it.
So she’ll be watching the Real Housewives or some other reality show and these women are acting out and she’ll justify it with “Well, at least they’re getting paid” or some girl is a sugar baby and she’s basically selling her body and time for money and your girl justifies this with “At least she’s getting a cheque off of it,” stripping, prostitution, no lengths is too far for her to go to because like I said, this girl is all about the money. Money over everything.
And the thing is a lot of you guys shoot yourself in the foot when you go out and get these kind of girls because you entice them with your money and expect them to automatically change in the relationship. You want to flex and brag to your friends about how you can bag any woman you want and these are the kinds of girls you go after, but guess what, when you live by the sword, you die by sword.
Same way you got her is the same way you are going to lose her. Because another dude has more money than you, he’s in a higher income and tax bracket, and whenever he comes, anything he wants from your girl who is driven strictly by money, he is going to get it from her.
3. The Silent Doctor (get it? No? 😂 Okay)
The third person I think is most likely to cheat is the guy that handles all his problems in a relationship with silent treatment. He doesn’t want to work through it, he doesn’t want to talk through it. The moment his woman says anything that he doesn’t like, he needs a couple of days to be able to “get his mind together” or he needs to go and clear his head for a couple of hours.
Now, this guy, he might be, I wouldn’t even call it faithful, but he’s probably blurring the lines and not quite crossing it throughout the relationship; but the moment he gets mad, now his conscience is clear to go and cheat. And now he has an escape so he thinks in the future he will be able to say “Well, I cheated because I was emotional. I was mad.”
Ladies, let me tell you something: Silent treatment is not only a childish tantrum thrown by a boy as well as emotional abuse; it is also a one-sided break. That’s when they go and tell the other girl “Well, we’re not really together right now. We stopped talking” when in all honesty you’re just on bad terms and he felt like being a hoe right then.
4. The Neglected
The fourth person is the woman that feels like she’s being neglected. Now this isn’t even physical, or at least not yet. Most times, it’s emotionally cheating. You know that work bae, that bestie, that’s how it starts.
Some dude, some confidante, some third party. Maybe he’s an old flame that things didn’t quite work out with, but she still has enough respect for his opinion and wants a male’s perspective on her relationship with you. Side note: this is why you shouldn’t go out of your relationship to talk to too many people but yeah this is that guy.
So through small conversation or through a little advice here and there, she ends up growing an affinity for him and then he becomes her go-to guy whenever she needs a pick-me-upper or when she needs to feel understood, whenever she needs to feel confident again and feel like she’s not crazy or just overreacting, this is the guy that she goes to.
And a lot of you guys don’t even realise that your woman is developing this kind of friendship with another guy because, news flash, YOU NEGLECT HER. So now you’re having an emotional threesome.
5. The Pretty Boy
The fifth person is a guy that takes a whole lot of selfies and posts them on social media. Like if you go to his Instagram page, it’s like 3 on a row and at least one of those three selfies are pictures of him in the same mirror from the last one, he’s laying on the same pillow with the same features, in the same car, whatever.
If he’s taking selfie after selfie and he’s not building any brand, he’s not a model, nothing, he just likes to look at himself?? That’s not self-love, that’s self lust, and if he’s lusting for his own male features, then guess what? He’s probably lusting after other male features as well. He’s not just a pretty boy, he’s a pretty boy that likes other pretty boys. He’s not just cheating on you, he’s cheating on you with other guys. I guarantee it.
6. The Serial Cheatee
The sixth most likely person to cheat in a relationship is that woman that is getting cheated on or has been cheated on and she never brought it up. A lot of women, the first time around she still believes in love so she might blow up. She’s in love so she’ll stick to her values, she’ll probably let it go, but after the first time women just start saying “You know what, fuck it!”
They just say they’re going to do what they want to do, they won’t keep on playing the victim. This is not the 90’s whenever a woman was getting cheated on, she stayed at home crying and twiddling her thumbs for her man to come back home and say “You know what, I’ve been sleeping with so, so and so and that’s just it. Now we are going to move forward.”
Today’s women? If you come with a confession, they’ll respond with “We’ve both been cheating” either when you confess or when the relationship is over and you start talking crap. And you know what is going to make it worse? Women don’t cheat like you guys. Women cheat up.
Men cheat with convenience. They cheat with whoever is present and whoever has a pulse at the moment they have an opportunity to cheat. Women cheat with the guys that they have been keeping at bay the entire relationship, the guys that they did not give any play or any attention.
Guys don’t give up easily, we all know that, so whenever their man finally cheats on them and they’re tired of that bs, guess what? That guy that you cannot compete with, that dude that looks better than you, is doing better than you, is a better option than you, that’s the one that she’s going to be cheating with. That’s the one that’s going to be digging in her walls while you’re out there cheating with anything with a pulse thinking she’s at home just being dumb and naive, like you have been bragging to your friends that she is, and you can get away with it.
I don’t agree that people generally don’t cheat in good relationships because it all depends on the character of the people involved. But the more people rationalize cheating, the more it becomes a culture of dishonesty. And that can become a vicious, downward cycle. Because suddenly, if everyone else is cheating, you feel a need to cheat, too.
So, anyway, I’ll stop there.
I’ll see you guys in the comment section.
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