How are you doing today? I hope this post meets you in impeccable health. As I’m sure you can already tell from the title, today marks my three years anniversary as a blogger.
My first post on SmalleeWrites was two paragraph long and consisted of me telling my readers that I wasn’t scared to die. It attracted 3 comments. Hurrraay!
The day I decided to hit publish on my first ever blog post, I had no idea what was to come. My only thoughts when I started to write and share about my personal experiences online were that “this will hold me accountable” and “I’ll be able to learn more from others and impact who I can.” I knew I’d still be writing, but I didn’t think for a second that I’d get to meet some of the incredible people who have helped me become who I am today.
Since then, I’ve amassed three years of blogging under my belt, received many blog awards and tonnnnns of views. I’ve published 125 more posts since the first, with this one being #126.
SmalleeWrites has allowed me to bare my soul without fear, participate in things that I used to dream about and build relationships with people who have done some seriously amazing things. All of these little moments have taught me some precious lessons. So I thought I’d reflect back on my three years of blogging and share the good, the bad, the downright ugly, and the lessons I’ve learned along the way. Three of the most important lessons I’ve learned since starting this blog three years ago are these:
1. Planning can only take you so far
As much as I try to get ahead by planning out my blog posts, my social media and my life in general — those plans don’t always end as I once imagined they would. Take this blog post for example. I planned to start writing it hours ago but I got busy with life and it’s currently about an hour from the time you’ll be reading as I write this sentence. I don’t really think of myself as a planner. I’ll always write things down, schedule events and milestones into my calendar and daydream about where I’d like to be in the next five years. However, those plans are more fluid than they used to be. Each day I try to do one actionable item that gets me closer to achieving a goal. But when those goals are or will be accomplished is up for debate. Although it’s hard to live your life one day at a time, I find that if I don’t — I miss those tiny, irreplaceable moments that I never want to forget. Damn girl, you deep.
2. You’ll probably only learn your limits through failure
Last year was pretty crazy for me professionally. On top of working and going to school full time, blogging part-time and freelancing part-time — things in my personal life were pretty intense. I thought that if I kept busy, focused on making money and ignored how overwhelmed I was, things would be fine. But, we all know that’s a disaster waiting to happen. I’ve learned a lot about how much stress I can handle, how much work I should manage and why limiting myself from taking on too much at once is important. I can’t say I’ve ever learned what my limits were without failing. This time, the failure was not putting enough energy into my mental health. Getting to share those tough times through writing and all of you readers was a great lesson in self-care. Sometimes you need to learn your limits and choose your focus, which is never an easy decision.
3. People challenging you is the best possible lesson
Although some people might prefer to keep it mostly sunshine and rainbows, over here on SmalleeWrites, sometimes the occasional dark cloud likes to show its face and voice its rather aggressive opinions. When I first started to write online, I knew that some people would criticize my ideas and style. However, I didn’t think it would affect me at all — until it did. It’s hard not to focus on mean comments and the low-traffic days. Those things used to weigh on me. It felt like I was doing something wrong, I wasn’t doing enough or the always classic fear that I wasn’t good enough. I’ve now learned to embrace those opinions, comments and months that can only be described by saying: weak analytics. Challenging ideas and people who give constructive criticism actually teach you how to be happy, see things from a new perspective and also to realize that some days will just suck. But if out of 365 days of the year, only 5% of those days suck — things are actually pretty great.
Those are three of the lessons I’ve learned in my three years of being a blogger.
Now, to the giveaway…
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